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Vanishing illusions...

Grief has taught me that while we dream of tomorrow, none of us is promised even today.

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No one imagined this...

Whatever your opinion of his politics; whatever you thought of his demeanor - whether he represented the Jesus you know or not; whatever you felt about his rhetoric, Charlie Kirk died in a horrible way - and far too young.

A healthy, 31-year old man, a husband and father of two, does not wake up and think, “This is the day that I’m going to die.” He thinks about saving in the college fund, paying the mortgage, and next year’s family vacation. He thinks about the cute things the kids said the other day, if it’s too soon to get a puppy, and the speech he has to make for work. He doesn’t think, “This is the end.”

Life is fragile, fleeting...

And that’s the thing. He didn’t know, and neither do you. None of us knows the exact day or hour our souls will be required of us. While we’re planning the beautiful mundane things that make up life, we also can’t neglect the absolute certainty of death. The Grim Reaper has a nearly 100% success rate (think Enoch, Elijah, and Jesus) and he doesn’t care about your politics, your demeanor, or your rhetoric.

Free Resource: Letting Go Doesn’t Mean Forgetting

This gentle guided journal offers scripture, reflection prompts, and encouragement to help you release what you cannot hold while treasuring the love that endures forever. A safe space to process grief, remember with hope, and take small steps toward healing.

What Becomes Clear When You Face Mortality

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What becomes clear when you face mortality...

When my husband died earlier this year, certain things became crystal clear. Nothing revolutionary, nothing I didn’t know, but when you look death in the eye, you see the ordinary in a different light. One of those things was that our time on earth is short. No matter how many times you make the trek around the sun, those years pale in the light of eternity. James 4:14 says, "For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away.”

The call to love well...

The second thing I saw with clarity is that how we spend our time loving others by donning humility and compassion is what will last through eternity. When asked, Jesus said that the greatest commandment is to love God, and the second greatest is just like it - love your neighbor as yourself. In God’s eyes, the way you love your neighbor is the way He receives the love you give Him. In Matthew 22:40 He said, “All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

On the day that you meet your Maker, He might not mention your politics. He might brush past your demeanor or even your rhetoric. But for certain, He will ask you, “Who did you love?” Yesterday, Charlie Kirk left this life sooner than anyone imagined. What he and his Maker talked about remains between them. But on the day your soul is required, how’s that conversation going to go? Please think about it.

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Looking for More Encouragement?

If this post encouraged you, you'll find more in my book, Unshakeable in Christ—a 30-day devotional centered on healing through our identity in Christ. Each day features a powerful "I AM" statement rooted in Scripture. It’s written for women who, while navigating life’s hardest seasons, yet cling to their identity in Christ as their firm, unshakeable foundation.

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Have you found comfort in any daily routines? What’s helping you heal? Share in the comments below—I’d love to hear what habits are helping you in this season, and your experience might give hope to someone else.